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Boxer Health => General Health => Topic started by: ltournat on September 26, 2014, 11:01:24 AM

Title: I think it's time
Post by: ltournat on September 26, 2014, 11:01:24 AM
So I finally took Felix in to the vet yesterday...I've been avoiding it. I just wanted a vet to evaluate what stage they think his DM is in and how much longer they think he had.  Of course they confirmed my worst fears.

He's lost almost all muscle tone in his hind legs and almost complete loss of his back right leg fuction and has lost 8 lbs since his last visit in April.  He's to a point where he can barely walk without slipping and falling down. The vet said, if it were her dog, she would be making arrangements to put him down within the next couple of weeks.

 :bigcry: :bigcry: :bigcry:

How do I even make this decision and say goodbye?  It seems unfathomable to go on without him.
Title: Re: I think it's time
Post by: Boxermom,K on September 26, 2014, 12:26:41 PM
 :bigcry:  I'm so sorry you are at this point, it's such a heartbreaking decision. Quality of life is the only true factor, just remember that you aren't alone. We are always here to offer support or at least a shoulder to cry on. {{hugs}}
Title: Re: I think it's time
Post by: Christina on September 26, 2014, 03:22:59 PM
I'm so sorry, I know it's a very difficult decision. I've had to make that decision twice this year, it's never easy, but you have to look at their quality of life, that's the most important thing.  :'(
Title: Re: I think it's time
Post by: Rubidawg on September 26, 2014, 08:06:44 PM
Oh geesh, Lisa. I'm so sorry. :( Felix has been with us for so long, seems like just yesterday we were all sharing the fun moments, laughing, learning and just having fun. That's the quality of life we wish will never end. It's a truly difficult decision to make, and I know you will find it in your heart to do what's best for your boy. Just keep thinking of all those fun times together. Felix will always have a special part of your heart. We are all here for you and to help remind you of the good times, whenever you need it.

Hugs.
Title: Re: I think it's time
Post by: BoxerWB on September 26, 2014, 09:47:04 PM
I'm so sorry, Lisa. Let him tell you...
Title: Re: I think it's time
Post by: Theresa on September 26, 2014, 09:52:46 PM
Oh Lisa. I am so so sorry. My heart is breaking for you.
Title: Re: I think it's time
Post by: boxer pal on September 27, 2014, 09:13:21 PM
Is he still 'engaged' in life and what goes on around him?  Are you willing and able to give him assistance to walk and go potty?  Is his appetite still good?  (I know you said he's lost weight)  There are a LOT of things to consider and I know you will weigh each one carefully.  I'm not too crazy about a vet who would voice their opinion in such a way.  It's important you do what is best for YOUR family with Felix's best interest in mine.  Each family has a different threshold for when enough is enough.  I'm so sorry you are facing this already.  It sure doesn't seem like any of our pups should be aging and leaving us.  Hugs to you!
Title: Re: I think it's time
Post by: Bruins_Boxer on September 29, 2014, 08:37:28 AM
I am sorry to hear this . Any decision like this is hard , you will do what is right for your family .
Title: Re: I think it's time
Post by: steph0808 on September 30, 2014, 10:56:29 AM
I am so sorry, Lisa.

Everyone always said it, and I never believed until I experienced it, but you will know when it's time. Brody had been happy and playful even with lymphoma for several months, but one day he woke up and wouldn't eat and wouldn't play and the light had gone out of his eyes. It was an instantaneous change, just overnight, and I knew. I put it off until the next day, hoping he would turn around, but he didn't.

Whatever decision you make will be the right one.
Title: Re: I think it's time
Post by: whitepupzoe on October 01, 2014, 09:38:04 AM
Oh Lisa...my heart breaks for you...and Felix.  :bigcry:  I think this is the hardest decision we will ever have to make, no matter what you will always second guess your decision, I know I did with both my girls. I knew in my heart it was the right time for both of them, but my mind still said...what if...

Follow your heart, and let him tell you...are the bad days outweighing the good? How is his quality of life....

My heart is just breaking for you...hugs!!  :bigcry:
Title: Re: I think it's time
Post by: ltournat on October 03, 2014, 10:28:40 AM
His appetite is still normal, but he literally can barely even walk these days without falling.  He's got some sores on his back feet from constantly falling and dragging them.  It's becoming increasingly more difficult for him to even go to the bathroom and crouch down for #2.  I try helping him walk up the 3 stairs from our back yard and pick him up when he falls inside the house.  He just spends most of his days laying around.  He still does try to be involved with whatever we're doing and wants to be loved on.

If it makes sense though, I don't know if I really see it in his eyes yet that HE'S ready to go.  Or maybe I'm just not really seeing it.  But I see him every day - when other people come to my house, they almost start crying seeing him in the shape he's in.  My mom thinks it's time as well.

We have our family photos tomorrow that I'm having both dogs in.  I think after that, I'm going to really have to make a decision.  :bigcry:
Title: Re: I think it's time
Post by: whitepupzoe on October 03, 2014, 04:13:49 PM
I think that is the hardest...when their body is breaking down...but they are still mentally there. Please know that whatever decision you decide, will be the right one. He has had the best life possible and has known nothing but love. Hugs to you and to Felix. Please keep us posted.  :'(
Title: Re: I think it's time
Post by: Newcastle on October 03, 2014, 10:07:08 PM
I'm so sorry you're facing this...

A lot of people use boots to prevent scraping the tops of the feet, and Boxers seem to adapt well to carts. There are also ways you can create a sling with towels to support the back end.

When Jessica was going through this with I think Nedra, she said her vet told her to list ten things the dog loved to do, and when she could no longer do those things, it was time to let her go....
Title: Re: I think it's time
Post by: Missy/Precious mom on October 06, 2014, 07:14:18 PM
Lisa my heart is breaking tor you. :bigcry: he will let you know when he is ready. In the mean time just love on him and do what you can to make him happy.
Title: Re: I think it's time
Post by: Eilene on October 15, 2014, 02:24:07 PM
 :bigcry: SO sorry to read this..Like the others have said you will know.It is a hard decision.
Title: UPDATE: I think it's time...
Post by: ltournat on October 23, 2014, 11:59:05 AM
Saturday is the day. We've made the decision to put both dogs down at the same time actually.

Both their qualities of life have greatly diminished at this point. Felix can barely walk in a straight line anymore and more often than not just falls. He primarily just lays down most days and it's a struggle just to get him outside to potty. Buddy is to the point where he's pooping/peeing in the house almost every day, his hearing is failing, he's got cataracts in his eyes and he's lost so much weight from his loss of appetite.

As hard a decision is was to come to this conclusion, we feel it's best to do it at the same time, so we don't have to grieve again a few months later. Plus, I'm not sure how either dog would react to the other one gone.

Please send me some prayers guys that I make it through this day.  It will be the hardest day of my life.

 :bigcry: :bigcry: :bigcry: :bigcry: :bigcry:
Title: Re: I think it's time
Post by: Theresa on October 23, 2014, 06:22:39 PM
Big hugs to you and the family. My heart breaks for you.
Title: Re: I think it's time
Post by: LOVEBUG on October 23, 2014, 09:28:46 PM
If only there were words that could help. I am so very sorry. :bigcry:
Title: Re: I think it's time
Post by: BoxerWB on October 23, 2014, 10:10:32 PM
I'm so sorry. I wish you and your family peaceful grieving.  :'(
Title: Re: I think it's time
Post by: Christina on October 24, 2014, 08:21:01 AM
I'm so sorry that you're having to go through this. Big hugs to you and your family
Title: Re: I think it's time
Post by: Eilene on October 24, 2014, 12:17:21 PM
So sorry to hear this. You will be in my thoughts and prayers during this difficult time. :bigcry:
Title: Re: I think it's time
Post by: whitepupzoe on October 24, 2014, 02:15:44 PM
Oh Lisa....I have no words....tears are flowing here while I sit at my desk at work.  I will be thinking of you tomorrow. Spend every last second loving them. They ask nothing more of us then to give love...

Hugs.  :bigcry:
Title: Re: I think it's time
Post by: Bruins_Boxer on October 24, 2014, 02:30:49 PM
 :'(
Title: Re: I think it's time
Post by: steph0808 on October 24, 2014, 03:04:41 PM
I am so, so sorry, Lisa. Sending you guys lots of vibes and prayers.
Title: Re: I think it's time
Post by: Randi on October 24, 2014, 07:51:37 PM
So sorry that you have to say goodbye. It is so hard!  :bigcry: Prayers to you and your family during this hard time!
Title: Re: I think it's time
Post by: TLC Mom on October 25, 2014, 10:49:42 AM
I'm so sorry Lisa.  :bigcry: I'll be keeping you and your family in my thoughts today. God Speed Flex and Buddy.....  :angel: :angel:
Title: Re: I think it's time
Post by: Rubidawg on October 26, 2014, 08:27:39 PM
Oh geeze, Lisa! I read about Felix on FB, but had no idea about Buddy too! I'm so sorry. Felix was like one of the originals here, and yet another one gone. :( Just breaks my heart. So sorry you are going through this. RIP Felix and Buddy. Atleast they will both have each other, while greeting all our babies at the bridge.
Title: Re: I think it's time
Post by: boxer pal on October 28, 2014, 04:47:25 PM
I hope by now your mind has settled a bit.  I'm so sorry you and your family had to make such a tough decision with both dogs.  It is so sad that another of our long time forum boxers (and his sidekick) is gone.  Hugs you guys!
Title: Re: I think it's time
Post by: ltournat on November 07, 2014, 09:24:48 AM
Thanks everyone for your kind words and support. We actually decided NOT to put Buddy down at the same time. We looked long and hard at his situation and even though he is incontinent every once in awhile, it just wasn't his time to go.

I sure miss my poochie though.  :'(
Title: Re: I think it's time
Post by: Missy/Precious mom on November 07, 2014, 10:28:21 AM
I know it is so hard :bigcry:  So glad you still got Buddy though. :smitten: